Trust
This seems to be break-up season. Three couples I know have broken up in the past month or so, and news of more hopping onto the same bandwagon continues to pour in. A seemingly obvious issue that seems to have become rather large and important is the issue of trust. Not trust in the sense of fidelity, but trust in each other. Trust that both parties will be honest with one another and will not hurt each other. More and more couples seem to be sabotaging their relationships by withholding honesty; the foundation of any relationship.
A friend once said to me, “If two people are in a relationship, the least they can do is keep each other happy.” While I agreed wholeheartedly with the comment, it didn’t touch upon the question of trust. If two people make each other happy, but are constantly on edge because they don’t know how much to trust their significant others, what then?
Can love exist without trust? And if it does, then does the relationship stand a fighting chance? Another important question is whether trust once betrayed can be rebuilt. And how long should one wait for it to happen, within the boundaries of reasonable faith? Love, the most ambiguous of feelings, yet debatably the most powerful is complex and often hard to understand. The heart often defies the better judgment of the head, and then of course pays for it. But cynicism aside, it has to be admitted that following instinct is sometimes more beneficial.
Returning to the topic, the question of trust is not as subjective as it is claimed to be. More often than not, the lines that are crossed are lines that are universally accepted as just that…lines that mustn’t be crossed. Can it then be true that the “crosser” of these lines was indeed unaware that (s)he was crossing them?
I guess discussions like these will remain the domain of the couples that face this problem. For speculation is of no use besides that of clarity of one’s own thought. Which is what this post attempts to do.
A friend once said to me, “If two people are in a relationship, the least they can do is keep each other happy.” While I agreed wholeheartedly with the comment, it didn’t touch upon the question of trust. If two people make each other happy, but are constantly on edge because they don’t know how much to trust their significant others, what then?
Can love exist without trust? And if it does, then does the relationship stand a fighting chance? Another important question is whether trust once betrayed can be rebuilt. And how long should one wait for it to happen, within the boundaries of reasonable faith? Love, the most ambiguous of feelings, yet debatably the most powerful is complex and often hard to understand. The heart often defies the better judgment of the head, and then of course pays for it. But cynicism aside, it has to be admitted that following instinct is sometimes more beneficial.
Returning to the topic, the question of trust is not as subjective as it is claimed to be. More often than not, the lines that are crossed are lines that are universally accepted as just that…lines that mustn’t be crossed. Can it then be true that the “crosser” of these lines was indeed unaware that (s)he was crossing them?
I guess discussions like these will remain the domain of the couples that face this problem. For speculation is of no use besides that of clarity of one’s own thought. Which is what this post attempts to do.
posted by Mojo | 11:14 AM
3 Comments:
could not think of anything to say...
There are times when I am so full of love...and it overflows, me dissolves in it and God what energy it leaves me with!- right now it is kinda strange for me to talk about/comment on Break ups...break- up is a tough word, does it mean you no longer love(inconceivable for me) or you are rude(fine if that is how u react), or you break loose and fly in your own sky leaving past behind( sounds good doesn't it??
Sometimes,we should not think too much...tooo much thinking leads to uncertainity in many cases...a little bit of trust,dollops of love and some space..and relationships work fine.
Why?What?Where? many times seem to destroy everything.
Also,though I solid reason,but i feel extremely opinionated people have a problem in making and keeping a very close relationship.
Well, all i can say is that different people have different perspective. For me trut plays a pivotal role in any relationship; and when we love someone and are with that person, we obviously are in a relationship. There is an extremely low chance of a healthy relationship surviving, without trust.
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